Calm Cabin Counselling

Choosing the right therapist for yourself or your child can often feel like navigating a maze.
As the quality and depth of the counselling or psychotherapeutic relationship can be the key
to unlock improved self-awareness and awareness of ourselves in relationship to others, it is
so crucial that you and/or your child finds the best possible person to help you on the journey
of self-understanding, personal growth and restoring emotional balance.
I believe that most people are doing the very best they can, but unfortunately sometimes we
can feel as if we are not totally being seen, heard and felt by our family and loved ones.
Somehow that our core authentic needs in these crucial relationships are not fully being met.
When we grow into adolescence and adulthood, even though we may continue to seek
nurture and love we may still be left feeling misunderstood, or mis-met in our relationships
which can lead to complex feelings of sadness or loss.

As children, young people and adults we may try to ignore our feelings, almost shutting them
down, but this can lead to increasing levels of anxiety or low mood. Depending on our innate
personality traits and how our emotions have been responded to by others, these big feelings
can sometimes spill into dysregulation, anger, and activation of the fight or flight system.
At some points in our life when things are feeling especially tough we may need the support
of a counsellor or psychotherapist to take the role of navigator and help guide us through this
tangle of feelings especially when we are feeling particularly low, overwhelmed, stuck,
confused, frustrated or angry. At worst we may begin to turn our feelings inwards and blame
ourselves which can lead to self-harming or risk taking behaviours.

Today we are also recognising and understanding how the interplay of neurodiversity in the
forms of Autism Spectrum Condition - ASC ( www.autism.org.uk) Sensory Processing
Disorder SPD, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder ADHD or ADD (adhduk.co.uk)
and Dyslexia ( www.bdadyslexia.org.uk) can add another level of challenges further
complicating our journey from childhood, to adolescence and onwards into adulthood.
We are living in a world where levels of anxiety are rising in adults and young people many
of whom are seeking mental health support. Unfortunately the system is overloaded and long-
term therapeutic support is not always available leaving medical practitioners with the option
of either medication or time limited Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT. The efficacy of
CBT can be short term and not always offer opportunities for longer term healing. (50.5% referrals moved to recovery- NHS England Digital - 25 Sep 2025).

A longer term counselling or psychotherapeutic relationship can help us identify our unmet
needs and support us to heal. Many clients of all ages are finding having a safe, confidential
and compassionate space just for them helps them to know themselves, feel more in control
of their emotions and lead to more fulfilling relationships with the key people in their lives.